Anyone else catch the ridiculous front-page story in the Sunday Washington Post, “Transgender at Five“?
She first insisted she was a boy at the age of 2. “I am a boy” became a constant theme in struggles over clothing, bathing, swimming, eating, playing. Eventually, a psychologist diagnosed gender identity disorder. Now Tyler ‘s parents allow him to live as a boy, and the 5-year-old is reveling in his new identity.
Of course, the WashPo holds this up as a beacon of enlightened, sensitive, caring parenting. Note that the Post even refers to this girl as “him.” So much for accuracy in reporting.
First of all, psychologists are not medical doctors (those would be psychiatrists.) Let’s just dispense with that right away. My money is on this psychologist being a total quack with a diploma from some liberal college.
Next, this girl was 2 and she is still only 5. How many kids aged 2-5 go around insisting they are a dog and barking or a cat and meowing? Does the Post support “Transpecies” kids and think parents should go get their kids flea collars and let them eat out of bowls on the floor, sleep in doggy beds or use a kitty litter box? (Other kids think they are a train or a car — I don’t even think there is a “trans-” word to describe that.) Little kids are discovering who they are and play make believe. Some want to be something else and that is normal. Kids grow out of phases unless parents feed into the fantasy. Otherwise, they learn. Sometimes it takes longer than others. It seems like in this case the parents just threw up their arms and gave in — to a toddler. Exactly who is running that household? Doesn’t sound like the adults are to me.
So what if the little girl wanted to play with swords and wear pants? Have these parents (or the Post) never heard the term “tomboy”? Never mind that many girls who are “tomboys” grow up to be perfectly normal, well-adjusted women without any gender identity confusion or sexual orientation issues.
These parents — and the WashPo to a degree by extension for trying to normalize such bad parenting practices — are ruining a 5-year old girl’s life. They deserve every penny this will cost them for either the years of therapy she will have to endure or for the Addadictome operation she would need to undergo in order to physically become a man. To everyone else with kids or who will one day have kids I say this — you’re the parent, they’re the child. First and foremost, you’re their mom and dad, not their friend. You’re the adult — act like one.